The Breakdown, The Long Cry and Chocolate Cake: Surviving The Mental Tornado Caused By Resistance

by golda on May 2, 2011

 
 
The Breakdown, The Long Cry and Chocolate Cake: Surviving The Mental
Tornado Caused By Resistance
 
By Golda Smith
 
Monday night I had the pleasure to eavesdrop on an interview between my business coach Sandi Krakowski and Steven Pressfield, author of the War of Art. I had just found my copy of the book sitting in a box that I hadn’t unpacked yet since I moved to NY last summer. It was sitting right on top and despite the fact that I’d already spent days looking for it, on this particular day I walked into the storage shed and found it in less than 1 minute…go figure!
 
Listening to that interview, I keep having one ah ha moment after the other. “Resistance plays for keeps”…so far it was winning. Yesterday I had my morning shake, took the kids to school, came home, sat in front of my laptop and prepared to write. Two hours later, I was no closer to writing my first sentence as I was to being selected as America’s Next Top Model.
 
It had turned into one of those days where resistance was kicking my ass. It was talking serious trash. It told me, “You have nothing to say that others haven’t said better”. I told it to shut the hell up! It said “just give up, go get a real job”. I told it to leave me alone. Then it whispered “you know you’ll just fail at this too”. Damn! It was going for the jugular. Maybe some of you A type personalities have no clue what I’m talking about and if you do you’d probably not dare admit it but it was really messing with me to the point where I was having a mini break down.
 
After the 4th hour I realized it was time to take my own advice. I got up and went for a run. It was raining outside, a beautiful warm rainy day. My tears mixed with the rain as I pushed my body to go further and work harder. My mind was silenced and the only thing I heard was Sandi’s voice on my i-pod, something about increasing my faith :).  I needed that run and the release. I didn’t write a single word that day; however, I didn’t allow resistance to seduce me into accepting its invitation to a black tie pity party for one.
 
Later that day, still feeling less than creative, I did the next best thing and indulged in the last piece of my birthday cake, it was delicious. It got me to thinking…I AM the only one standing in my way. I can choose to believe what that liar called Resistance says or I can choose to believe the truth. The truth is that I am designed for greatness and so are you. The truth is that it may be a daily battle but it’s one that I can win and so can you. I don’t have many days like yesterday, but I thank GOD for new beginnings.
 
 
 

 

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1 Patti Ann Ridgway May 2, 2011 at 6:56 am

Great post Golda….just like Sunday services your message always delivers directly to my heart.  "We are designed for greatness!
xo

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2 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
May 2, 2011 at 10:47 am

Hi Patti,

I am humbled by your comment, thank you. Have an awesome day!

Golda

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3 Tami Gomez May 2, 2011 at 9:04 am

Good morning Golda! I loved reading your blog this morning. I'm also reading the War of Art and this motivated me to finish it today! Thank you for the "kick in the booty"! xo

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4 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
May 2, 2011 at 10:46 am

Hi Tami,

Thank you! I am still reading through the War of Art and the downloads keeps coming. Enjoy.

Golda

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5 Phil Holleman May 2, 2011 at 9:15 am

Great article, Golda! I'm having one of those times this morning, What can I say?

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6 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
May 2, 2011 at 10:45 am

Good morning Phil! I’m praying for you 🙂

Golda

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7 Ryan Biddulph
Twitter: cashgiftingcrew
May 2, 2011 at 11:43 am

Hi Golda,
Mastering resistance is learning how to shift your attention. The run and cake-eating tips work for me too 😉
Feelings arise. We can't avoid this when living in a body. Locate the feeling immediately. Label it. It is real, it is tangible, so you can release the feeling immediately and create another feeling.
Never fight resistance. Fighting something lends that some-thing a powerful reality. Face, embrace, release and replace the negative energies. Let go and do what makes you feel good.
I take breaks every 60 minutes. I meditate for 5-10 minutes on the hour to observe my feelings, and shift them accordingly. Works like a charm.
Thanks Golda!
RB

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8 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
May 2, 2011 at 2:32 pm

Ryan thank you for sharing. I find that not many people talk about this online as it relates to their business. I’ve learned to take those breaks like you mentioned and the difference is just wonderful. No cake today though 😉

Have an awesome day,

Golda

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9 Monica D. Williams May 2, 2011 at 12:15 pm

Golda, I tell you girl… we are on a similar journey. It is persistence to win that kicks resistance's ass. We walk, run, cry and crawl to the finish line, but we don't give in. One Love my sistah, One Love!

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10 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
May 2, 2011 at 2:29 pm

That’s the right attitude Monica, NEVA give up!!!

Peace and love,

Golda

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11 Robert Seth@Simplify your life May 2, 2011 at 5:13 pm

Golda, this was such a good article!  I found myself alternately laughing and nearly crying as you related your struggle.  I think it's because it strikes so close to home.  I just ordered "War of Art" and now, more than ever, I can't wait for it to get here.  I really appreciate your candor in relating your story.  I think we can all identify with it and it helps to see that we're not the only ones out there with this problem.  

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12 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
May 2, 2011 at 8:19 pm

Hi Robert. Thank you so much. I’m glad that I added some humor to your day 🙂

Golda

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13 Janet @ The Natural Networker
Twitter: janetcallaway
May 2, 2011 at 6:28 pm

Golda, aloha.  Terrific post.  Have to tell you that the "chocolate cake" in the title grabbed me and pulled me into it. 

Golda, last month I wrote a post on Resistance or, as Seth Godin calls it, the Lizard Brain.  In the post there is a brief video clip of Seth explaining it which is terrific.

On the off chance that you do not already know, Steven just released another book and it is through Seth's Domino Project.  It is entitled "Do the Work" and will help people to understand Resistance even more so than from "War of Art."  The GREAT news is this book is absolutely free from Amazon if you "purchase" the Kindle edition.  Even if people don't have an "official" Kindle, they can download this book to their PC using Kindle for PC.

Golda, love that you are getting out of your way so that can come into your greatness.  You can count on me to cheer you along the way. 
Best wishes for a terrific week and month.  Aloha.  Janet

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14 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
May 2, 2011 at 8:17 pm

Aloha Janet, yest I am aware of Steven’s new book and look forward to reading that as well. I don’t have a kindle but I thank you for sharing how I can still download that. Awesome tip!!! Seth Godin has the most interesting titles and I will definitely have to find that post and watch the video. Have an amazing week!

Aloha,

Golda

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15 Sadie
Twitter: sadiefosterma
May 2, 2011 at 10:05 pm

Hey Golda!  Great article.  So happy to hear that you defeated resistance and got the job done!  Thanks for sharing!

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16 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
May 5, 2011 at 8:46 pm

Thank you Sadie! I get some of my best work when I push through that resistance…go figure 🙂

Golda

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17 Olga Hermans
Twitter: thechoicedriven
May 2, 2011 at 10:07 pm

Golda, new beginnings for everyone of us. You have a good drive going; keep it going! It was a great read!

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18 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
May 2, 2011 at 10:54 pm

Thank you Olga! I see great things for us both!

Golda

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19 Jym @ Blog Traffic
Twitter: JymTarrant
May 2, 2011 at 10:31 pm

Awesome, inspiring stuff Golda.
Amazing how we can sabotage our progress, it's almost like a part of us is addicted to suffering and is deeply afraid of success! These moments are when true grit and determination not to succumb to those voices are needed. Thanks for sharing this story.

Glad you had some birthday cake left over at the end – and I thought you were a model already?
All the bets,
Jym

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20 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
May 2, 2011 at 10:53 pm

A model, I am not but perhaps in my next life time. I agree with your point that sometimes we are addicted to suffering. For years, I know that I was and I’m glad that part of my life is over.

Golda

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21 Sadie May 3, 2011 at 1:51 pm

Hey Golda – resistance days certainly are no fun for me.    Great article.  So happy to hear that you defeated resistance and got the job done!  Thanks for sharing!

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22 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
May 5, 2011 at 8:36 pm

Sadie, thank you. I appreciate your comment. Have an awesome day.

Golda

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23 Oliver Tausend
Twitter: luckyoliver70
May 3, 2011 at 3:08 pm

Hi Golda,

Running releases, I second you on that, especially in warm rain. It's definitely the best thing you could do in this situation to overcome your block and the resistance. I like your Truth 😉 You are so right !

Thanks for sharing your insights.
Take care
Oliver

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24 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
May 5, 2011 at 8:39 pm

Hello Oliver, am I in the company of a fellow runner? Thank you for your comment. Until next time…

Golda

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25 Lou Barba@informationhighwaycardandgiftshop.com May 4, 2011 at 11:23 am

Hi Golda,
I can really relate to the blank screen, blank mind.  Fortunately, it's an occasional affliction that goes away on its own.  I must say, it takes more than a piece of chocalate cake to get me happy.  🙂  Thanks for a nice post and keep the faith.
 
Lou Barba

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26 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
May 5, 2011 at 8:41 pm

Hi Lou,

Like you I experience this ever so often…part of the process I guess. It doesn’t take much to make me happy but good food usually does the trick! Thank you for the comment. Until next time….

Golda

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27 Kesha @st. louis website design
Twitter: xdwebsolutions
May 5, 2011 at 12:47 am

I wholeheartedly feel you with this post. I'm glad you have your "out", your persistence to get over resistance!

This post resonated with me soooo much because I have found that what you've stated is true "I AM the only one standing in my way." There is no one else who is hindering our path to success.

Lesson learned and takeaway: Get out of my OWN way!! LOL

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28 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
May 5, 2011 at 8:45 pm

Hey Kesha! Everyone should have that one thing they can do to release and relax that’s why I’m such a big advocate of exercise. I’m glad that you found what you needed in this article. Until next time…

Golda

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29 Tisha May 5, 2011 at 6:30 pm

Hi Golda,
 
I believe we all struggle with resistance from time to time. The key is what do you do to over come that resistant thought. You made the right decision to run off the stress. That jog gave you the fuel you need to give that resistant thought a good kick good bye.
Now I am running downstairs to get a some chocolate cake. yummm! 🙂
 
Tisha

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30 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
May 5, 2011 at 9:13 pm

Hi Tisha. You are correct to point out it’s what we choose to do to over come the resistance. To often someone will give the power over to the resistance and give up which is very sad. Until next time…

Golda

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31 Mavis Nong @ Online Business Tools May 6, 2011 at 7:24 am

Hi Golda,
What an inspiring post! This sums it all: "We are designed for greatness."  When we encounter resistance, we must tackle it head on . If we don't overcome resistance, we will not achieve much.
Thanks for sharing the inspiration.
All the best,
Mavis
P.S. Love the new theme/look of your blog 🙂
 

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32 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
May 6, 2011 at 4:59 pm

Hi Mavis,

Resistance is something that we all encounter and always will. What we need to remember, is that when it shows up keep we need to keep moving through it or else it has won. Happy Mother’s Day Mavis. Until next time…

Golda

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