Business Tips Learned From The Birthing Tub

by golda on April 25, 2011

I’m watching the kids sleep; it’s been a long day. I can’t help but to sit here thinking about when I became a mother for the first time. That’s how I tell time; there was my life B.C. and life A.C. (before children and after children respectively). I’m extremely fortunate to have given birth to tow healthy and beautiful children. I always said that I wanted children but honestly I don’t know that I really believed that I would meet someone and start a family and now that they’re here all I can say is WOW!
It was perfect actually. I selected my midwife, the music I wanted, who I wanted to attend the birth and no pain medication. Well seeing as how I delivered at home, pain medication was not an option. Yes I gave birth to both my babies in the comfort of my home in a birthing tub and it was awesome…even through the pain.

Whoever said that you forget the pain after the baby is born is a damn liar with a Capital L!!!
That pain ripped through my body, wave after wave of contractions preparing to push that little butterball out of a 10 inch diameter. I had a relatively short labor, 8 hours. No joke! And, I would do it again. Wait a minute…I did do it a second time because I knew what I was doing, painful as it was, was going to produce something rare and beautiful. Eight years later, I remember that day like it was yesterday.  What made that moment bearable was 1) the water was there to soothe my body and help ease my labor and 2) being surrounded by people I loved and who loved me. FYI, that first meal after an 8 hour labor WAS THE BEST!
Why am I taking you down my memory lane? Well because you can compare giving birth to building a business, at least that’s how I see it. It’s often painful doing something new, something outside of your nice little safe comfort zone. You conceive an idea and you are so excited about it. You’re building your list, or so you think and it’s painful because it’s not growing as fast as you want it to. Keep pushing forward….it’s coming. Although you have people around who love you, they may not be supportive not because they don’t love you but unfortunately most of us have been programmed for fear. It’s amazing how many women were startled when I told them that I wasn’t having my baby in a hospital. They immediately when into fear mode and proceeded to tell me about all the horrible births that they either experienced of heard about!

Thanks for sharing. NOT!!!

Let me see…this is my first pregnancy and you’re telling me about the 48 hour labor that ended up with an emergency C-section and then you couldn’t breast feed for whatever reason. Seriously?! Do bad things happen? Absolutely; however, I didn’t approach childbirth with the attitude of fear and I certainly didn’t and don’t approach my business with fear. What’s that going to get you? I’ll tell you what, a whole lot of confusion, frustration, and a big serving of doubt! I don’t know about you but whenever I am in a state of doubt I never feel very comfortable with my decisions. If you find yourself in doubt, don’t beat yourself up over it. Recognize it for what it is and download something different into your subconscious.
What dreams haven’t you given birth to yet? What the heck are you waiting for? You’re not getting any younger and tomorrow is promised to no one so, take your dreams off of the shelf and give birth to that baby already!
Golda_Black_Dress-small.pngGolda Smith is a single mom who is building her "Business From The Kitchen Table" and enjoys working with other moms to get them into the happy zone and living the lives they were meant to live!



{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Jym Tarrant
Twitter: JymTarrant
April 25, 2011 at 9:33 pm

Awesome parallel to draw Golda, and congratulations on bringing two healthy, beautiful kids into the world! 8 hours huh? Not bad!

I've never given birth (obviously) but having witnessed the birth of my daughter and the process my wife went through (at home, medication free, same as you) I'm glad to have a fair idea of what's involved.

And it's true, birthing your business is similar in many ways. You have a lot invested in it – hopefully you've prepared yourself and got the right support and resources in place. Then – it's painful! It can even be traumatic, but the hard part is so worth it at the end!

This post offers such a powerful message to those in the 'birthing' stages of their business. Keep going guys, it will be worth it and you CAN do it! Encouragement and support are definitely what's needed, not messages of fear or worry.

As a side note, I also agree with you about the fears and negativity surrounding home births. I'm not sure how the prevailing attitudes are in the US, but It's so strong in Australia at the moment amongst certain groups that the government here has been making a significant effort to eradicate home birthing.
Whilst I believe there's nothing wrong with giving birth in a hospital (it should of course be the woman's choice), and on occasion hospital assistance is certainly required, for many women, the support and comfort of their own home with qualified midwife presence offers a far more peaceful process, and perhaps a far more gentle entry to the world for the little ones!

Thanks Golda, enjoyed this post, learning something more about you and receiving this powerful message!
All the best,
PS. Loving the new Site Design!


2 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
April 26, 2011 at 4:05 pm

Hi Jym! Thank you for such a thoughtful comment. So glad you and you wife had a great home birth experience as well, I also believe the government needs to keeps out of the business of dictating how a woman can birth her children. I would do it again in a heartbeat. There are so many parallels that can be made to business and the birthing process, I’m sure I could have found some more but I hope that my message was understood, I know you got it. Thanks for again.



3 Sadie
Twitter: sadiefosterma
April 26, 2011 at 9:46 pm

What a beautiful analogy.  I think almost everyone who has birthed a child can relate to what you've shared and apply it to business – I know I can.  Thanks for sharing! 


4 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
April 27, 2011 at 12:37 am

Hi Sadie,

Thank you for the compliment and for commenting. I can think of nothing better to compare building a business to than child birth. It’s amazing, stressful and rewarding.



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