Finding Your Voice
By Golda Smith
“If you live for the approval of others, you will die by their rejection” –Pastor Rick Warren
I wish I read this quote when I was in my teens. It would have saved me many years of heartaches, tears, depression and low self-esteem! If you’re like some entrepreneurs working online, it can be challenging to find your voice. I’ve heard people say many times that they just don’t know what to say or that they don’t think they have anything worth sharing. I understand those feelings because I’ve felt that way many times.
I sometimes equate it with opening your mouth to speak but nothing comes out. You have a lump in your throat and the process of getting the words out just hurts. I remember speaking to the parent coordinator at my children’s school one day. This was the day before my mom made her transition and I was attempting to tell her that my mom was just entered into hospice care. I wanted the administration to know what my children were experiencing.
I literally opened my mouth to speak and I started to choke on the pain from the lump that formed in my throat. I’d never experienced anything like that. Granted, that example was a bit dramatic but I want you to understand that sometimes the process of trying to find your own voice…trying to express your authentic self can be that painful, especially when you try to deny it.
You’re not alone and you’re not weird or inadequate. Each one of us has something to share and it needs to be shared. The thing is we MUST NOT compare ourselves to what others are doing. In addition, like the quote that opened this post from Rick Warren, author of The Purpose Driven Life, you can’t live for the approval of others or you WILL die by their rejection!
That means stop looking for praise and acceptance from everyone else at the expense of your happiness and sanity! Stop trying to segment your life, only showing what you think people want to see. At the same token, you have to give your audience what they want. Tricky right? Not really! The truth is that you WILL repel some AND attract others.
Courage is your secret weapon
It’s very easy to give into the negative committee we sometimes hear speaking in our heads. However, developing the courage to fail, get up and keep moving forward is the key to finding and sharing your voice. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve started a project or implemented an idea only to fall flat on my face, however; I’ve always gotten back up and kept moving forward. It’s not always easy nor does it come without some pain and self-criticism but that’s often part of the package.
Be Your Own Cheerleader
Break out the pompoms and get your noise maker! Sometimes, especially if you are just starting out with your venture, you will be the only one excited about what you’re doing. Have faith and keep doing what you’re doing. Write that article, make that podcast, shoot that video or execute that marketing plan. Whatever it is, recognize that you may be the only one in your corner for a while. Don’t stop! Focus on your daily tasks, study what others in your niche are doing and just as important, what they aren’t doing. Fill in that gap in a way that only you can. That’s where you find your voice.
Golda Smith is a mom and distance runner who is building her “Business From The Kitchen Table” working with Fitness, Health and Wellness Experts to put more muscle in their social media marketing. Do you hire freelancers? If so, then you need to get this report NOW because you may be making this mistake. Don’t let it be you!