Poker Face and Duck Tape

by golda on October 3, 2011


Poker Face and Duck Tape
By Golda Smith
I’m probably one of the most laid back people that you’ll ever meet. So laid back that it makes some people uncomfortable…you know, that kind of person that isn’t easily rattled or offended. However there is one thing that really gets under my skin and here it is. The rude pushy individual that’s totally disconnected to me and has no idea what makes me tick yet insists on trying to sell me on the first, second and third date (if they make it that far).
Like the dolt who befriended me on facebook months ago and from day one has asked me to convert my utilities to “his” company. Not once has he asked me about my family, which I frequently talk about and share photos of. Not once asking me if I pay the utilities in my home.
For those of you that are married, what would you have said to your spouse if they proposed on your first date? You’d have probably thought they were insane, excused yourself by saying you had a sudden emergency and fled the scene of the crime. Now you may think my example is extreme but many of the marketers on these various social networking sites commit these offenses every day. From the first time they meet you, they are throwing their business opportunities at you. It goes something like this…”Hi, I just got involved with the best business opportunity. No selling, no cost to get involved, and we have the BEST payout. Email me at if interested”. WOW, and sometimes they don’t even say hi.
You might be laughing right now but I am serious and you know it’s true because although YOU would never do this, you have been proposed to many times. Why would I join your business without knowing anything about YOU? That’s right, YOU. People don’t join your business because you asked them to, they join because they trust you. They join your business because they like you. They join you because you have taken the time to nurture a relationship with them and now they know you. The obstacle for some people is that they don’t know how or don’t care to take the time to build that relationship.
There are basically 4 reasons why marketers go for the speedy marriage proposal
·         Lack of quality leads- No leads = no sales = no food=skinny kids. It’s really that simple. The challenge for any entrepreneur is finding quality leads. People who franticly wave their arms trying to get whatever you have.
·         Lack of training- Beware of the wannabee trainers who have no results of their own. In my time online I’ve encountered quite a few who are only interested in placing me in their downline (bad word) but offer no real training.  
·         Lack of duplication- Sadly most network marketers have no problem with duplication. It’s just that they have the kind of duplication that won’t lead to success.  
·         Lack of income- After I took the time to F.O.R.M. my facebook speed dater, I discovered that he wasn’t doing very well in his business. He was in a limited market and wasn’t making any money. As a result, he was operating from a poverty mentally and because he was more concerned with making his next dollar, he was unable to connect with me or anyone else for that matter. Sadly, he’s not the only marketer behaving this way.
Achieving success in network marketing is a matter of doing a few things consistently. They include generating new leads every day and making sales. The leads are all around you. Whether you generate your own or purchase from a lead vendor. Success comes from building a relationship with your leads and remembering that it’s not a numbers game, as I’ve been taught. It’s the relationship that matters and like any great relationship, it takes a little bit of time for that trust and love to build. So the next time you meet someone and you’re tempted to verbally vomit on them, put on the poker face grab the duck tape and apply liberally! 
Golda Smith is a single mom who is building her "Business From The Kitchen Table" and enjoys working with other moms to get them into the happy zone and living the lives they were meant to live! She has a FREE reportentitled “5 Ways To Talk To People About Your Business Without Ever Picking Up The Phone”. Don’t listen to another dial tone, get this NOW!



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1 Kelli October 5, 2011 at 2:12 am

You do a great job of instilling the trust you speak of here. Every time I see one of your marketing emails, it's so personalized, I feel like you're on the phone chatting with me! 🙂 Great job on that!


2 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
October 5, 2011 at 11:36 am

Thank you Kelli. Comments like this inspire me to continue doing what I do!


3 Heather@best lightweight strollers October 5, 2011 at 10:59 pm

Golda – I couldn't agree with you more! For Pete's sake, I don't understand why more IM'ers don't understand that you 'pimp your friends' – if you treat people well, help them better their life or solve their problem, they are more likely to trust in the product that you sell. It's really so simple. Nice article as usual.


4 Miguel October 15, 2011 at 12:17 am

Right on Golda! Relationship matters and it's really important in business. I agree with you that people purchase your product because they trust you and not because you ask them to. Successful internet entrepreneurs earn their clients trust before introducing their product. They engage in social media sites, comment on blogs, participate in forums and post valuable information in their blog in order to be trustworthy.


5 Jeanie October 17, 2011 at 4:57 am

Your manner of writing is absolutely tremendous! I like it! And I was really laughing when I was reading the beginning of your article. But if to be serious, then I agree with you completely. While developing business or business relations, people shouldn't forget about simple standards of behavior, and about the fact that we are all humans, not robots...



6 Amy ~ Eat. Live. Laugh. Shop. October 25, 2011 at 12:30 pm

All so true.  People seem to lose themselves in the midst of getting a sale. Being true to yourself and your costumer is a much better bet!


7 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
October 25, 2011 at 3:21 pm

Thank you for stopping by Amy! You brighten my page with your smile and that fabulous orange top.


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