Poker Face and Duck Tape
Poker Face and Duck Tape
By Golda Smith
I’m probably one of the most laid back people that you’ll ever meet. So laid back that it makes some people uncomfortable…you know, that kind of person that isn’t easily rattled or offended. However there is one thing that really gets under my skin and here it is. The rude pushy individual that’s totally disconnected to me and has no idea what makes me tick yet insists on trying to sell me on the first, second and third date (if they make it that far).
Like the dolt who befriended me on facebook months ago and from day one has asked me to convert my utilities to “his” company. Not once has he asked me about my family, which I frequently talk about and share photos of. Not once asking me if I pay the utilities in my home.
For those of you that are married, what would you have said to your spouse if they proposed on your first date? You’d have probably thought they were insane, excused yourself by saying you had a sudden emergency and fled the scene of the crime. Now you may think my example is extreme but many of the marketers on these various social networking sites commit these offenses every day. From the first time they meet you, they are throwing their business opportunities at you. It goes something like this…”Hi, I just got involved with the best business opportunity. No selling, no cost to get involved, and we have the BEST payout. Email me at me@Iamdesparate.com if interested”. WOW, and sometimes they don’t even say hi.
You might be laughing right now but I am serious and you know it’s true because although YOU would never do this, you have been proposed to many times. Why would I join your business without knowing anything about YOU? That’s right, YOU. People don’t join your business because you asked them to, they join because they trust you. They join your business because they like you. They join you because you have taken the time to nurture a relationship with them and now they know you. The obstacle for some people is that they don’t know how or don’t care to take the time to build that relationship.
There are basically 4 reasons why marketers go for the speedy marriage proposal
· Lack of training- Beware of the wannabee trainers who have no results of their own. In my time online I’ve encountered quite a few who are only interested in placing me in their downline (bad word) but offer no real training.
· Lack of duplication- Sadly most network marketers have no problem with duplication. It’s just that they have the kind of duplication that won’t lead to success.
· Lack of income- After I took the time to F.O.R.M. my facebook speed dater, I discovered that he wasn’t doing very well in his business. He was in a limited market and wasn’t making any money. As a result, he was operating from a poverty mentally and because he was more concerned with making his next dollar, he was unable to connect with me or anyone else for that matter. Sadly, he’s not the only marketer behaving this way.
Achieving success in network marketing is a matter of doing a few things consistently. They include generating new leads every day and making sales. The leads are all around you. Whether you generate your own or purchase from a lead vendor. Success comes from building a relationship with your leads and remembering that it’s not a numbers game, as I’ve been taught. It’s the relationship that matters and like any great relationship, it takes a little bit of time for that trust and love to build. So the next time you meet someone and you’re tempted to verbally vomit on them, put on the poker face grab the duck tape and apply liberally!
Golda Smith is a single mom who is building her "Business From The Kitchen Table" and enjoys working with other moms to get them into the happy zone and living the lives they were meant to live! She has a FREE reportentitled “5 Ways To Talk To People About Your Business Without Ever Picking Up The Phone”. Don’t listen to another dial tone, get this NOW!