Sticks, Stones and Other Silliness On The Internet

by golda on May 9, 2011

Sticks, Stones and Other Silliness On The Internet
By Golda Smith
What is the social media protocol when you aren’t particularly moved by what you read online?
Is it all right to say exactly how you feel? I mean how you really truly feel? Or do you have to be P.C. about it? I have been marketing on line for a little more than a year now and I’ve always been told to NEVER publicly talk badly about someone or criticize their work especially if, dare I say, they are a “guru”. Reason being is you never know how your words will affect you or bite you in the behind. On a side note, I’m going to vomit if I learn of another “guru”.
A few weeks ago I posted this article in one of my social media networking groups. Apparently the readers found it interesting enough because they left 30+ comments. The majority of them thanked me for sharing that article and some even mentioned that it had been the subject of discussion in their team meetings or that they intended to share it with their teams. However, it was that ONE comment where the writer scolded the other group members for still commenting on this post “it’s been a week already. Let’s start a new discussion”. She also was kind enough to point out that what I was saying was nothing new. Let’s be honest, I haven’t seen much original content anywhere. Have you been in a bookstore lately? Maybe I should have said cyber bookstore. Look up any subject be it finance, relationships, parenting or social media and you will find a plethora of authors writing about the same subject yet each author puts their own spin on the information. The same applies to the content found online.
There are more network, internet and affiliate marketers online than I can count. Not to many of them are creating never before heard of content and yet quite a few seem to be doing quite well. Why is that? Could it be that what attracts one person may repel another?!

There’s no substitute for personality

It doesn’t really matter who said what or how many times those words have been uttered. What matters is that when YOU say it, it causes people to respond. That my dear is responsive marketing. Now back to that comment, I certainly did cause a response and it caused one in me. Initially, for a split second I was bothered. How dare this woman slam me? I was doing a service. However, in the end I chuckled and here’s why. At the end of her rant, Ms. Dodson (not her real name) stated that “someone should start a new discussion”. Who is this someone she’s referring to? Why not be the change that you want to see? Instead of ranting about what someone should do, take the initiative and do it yourself. Don’t wait for the other person to it, get up and do it yourself.


The lesson to remember here is that as you are clicking through your various social media sites  reading and commenting on the content if you are not providing value then don’t say anything at all. Can you disagree? Absolutely, however, there is a tactful and professional way to do so. I say professional because this was on a more business oriented site. As I am writing this I find myself laughing because it just occurred to me that I’ve never had this issue with my kids and they are six and eight, yet grown people on the internet can be so petty. Let’s hope this article doesn’t ruffle any feathers.





Golda Smith is a single mom who is building her "Business From The Kitchen Table" and enjoys working with other moms to get them into the happy zone and living the lives they were meant to live! She has a FREE report entitled “5 Ways To Talk To People Without Ever Picking Up The Phone". Don't listen to another dial tone. Get this NOW!



{ 8 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Helen Tanner Askins May 9, 2011 at 4:17 pm

I LOVE it, Golda!!!  Great read!  You are so right about all the content on the internet.  I've had several articles sent to me that were on the same subject before, and I got something "new" out of almost all of them.  The difference was in their STYLE of writing.  And as far as the "starting a new discussion" thing goes, you are right again.  If someone wants a new topic to discuss, let them start one of their own!  It's a shame how grown people can be so petty and negative sometimes.  
Hope everyone has a great day!!!


2 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
May 11, 2011 at 12:16 am

Hi Helen and AMEN! Let’s have fun while we learn from each other.



3 Robert May 12, 2011 at 5:22 am

Golda, I think this is a great topic to bring up.  It's hard to say sometimes what the correct thing to do is.  Sometimes I think people will say loaded things to intentionally stir things up.  But I think if we keep that old golden rule in mind, we'll all do fine.  I also like your comment about doing something, instead of just saying someone else should do something.  Action is a great thing!


4 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
May 12, 2011 at 3:12 pm

Hi Robert and thank you for sharing your thoughts. A leader doesn’t wait for others to do first…they just do it!


5 Lori@Life In Balance May 12, 2011 at 10:36 am

Great post Golda.  It doesn't take but a second to think about how we say things.  There is nothing to be gained from negative comments.  Constructive criticism is fine, but why we negative and petty.
Just send the woman love in your heart (after a few deep breaths) and wish her a better attitude and happier life like you have. 🙂


6 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
May 12, 2011 at 3:27 pm

You are so right Lori! Thanks for you comment.


7 Olga Hermans
Twitter: thechoicedriven
May 13, 2011 at 1:07 am

Golda, great statement. We all learn from each other, I glean from others and I know others glean form me. But make it as original as possible to your own topic of your site. Leave the negative people fight amongst themselves I would say. 🙂


8 Golda
Twitter: only1golda
May 13, 2011 at 4:28 pm

Thank you Olga!


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