Summer As A Single Mom…In New York
By Golda Smith
What can I say, a few days after school was over, my little chocolate drops headed south for the summer (for most of July at least). What would I do with myself? No one waking me up at 6am to fix them breakfast. No afternoon lunches or snacks to prepare. No one to remind to do the writing and reading least all the knowledge from the school year ooze from their brains.
Yes, Saturday brunches with the girls and lazy Sunday afternoons, the beach perhaps. Maybe even a date or three. Never happened! I’m sharing this because maybe some other single mom with her kids gone for a few weeks is feeling the same way. You know misery loves company
Instead, I chose to catch up on doctor’s appointments. Let’s see…I had two teeth extracted last week and spent the days following with a swollen face and a tightly clutched bottle of 800mg Ibuprofen. I had a complete physical and so far so good, clean bill of health although they still couldn’t explain the mysterious pain I sometimes feel just under my left breast.
I haven’t made it to a belly dance class yet and I’m disappointed about that. Could you believe that I actually forgot! Well it’s now programmed in my black berry for Monday and I won’t be late. It’s my goal to take as many belly dance classes as I can before they return and incorporate it back into my life once the kids return, I owe it to myself. Nothing but death can keep me from it.
Then there’s the dating scene…totally non-existent! I seem to have forgotten how to date and so I turned to an online dating service. After finally completely the online profile I just couldn’t seem to push the go button. Since when did dating get so darn complicated? Is it too much to ask to meet a sane, upwardly mobile man who is honest, believes in God, loves to laugh, is great with children, likes to read and is easy on the eyes? I pray to find my mate because this thing called casual dating is quite depressing.
This summer of 2011 hasn’t been that bad, honest-to-goodness. I did manage to get myself to the nail shop to treat myself to a pedicure. Amazing, I used to get them all the time before I became a mother and then opted for doing them myself. Yet there’s a great feeling having someone else massage and scrub my feet. I’ve decided that I will take my daughter for a special “Goddess Day” outing where we will both have pedicures and a light lunch. She’ll love it.
In addition, I did gain another two clients which is always a great thing, and I am thankful for the clients yet to come (gotta have a positive attitude). Helping others achieve their goals is exciting and I love it. At the same time, my coaching program is going splendid. I’m experiencing breakthroughs and continuing to build my list which is what pays when you’re in the direct sales business.
So what this social butterfly hasn’t been very social in a very long time. I guess what I needed during this time of single mommy hood is exactly what I have right now…time to do whatever, even if it’s nothing at all. As a single mom life is already jam packed with things to do so why did I put pressure on myself to suddenly revert back to my roaring 20’s just because I have a few weeks without kids? What I need is time to recharge and refresh. Well in any case, the summer isn’t over and I have much to look forward to. There will be time for weekend brunches and mojitos. But tonight, I’m having a mike’s hard lemonade and enjoying one of my favorite comedy’s…Sex and the City, that is my guilty pleasure.
Golda Smith is a single mom who is building her "Business From The Kitchen Table" and enjoys working with other moms to get them into the happy zone and living the lives they were meant to live! She has a FREE report entitled “5 Ways To Talk To People Without Picking Up The Phone”. Don’t listen to another dial tone, get this NOW!